I agree with you that calling non-pvp players care bears is not useful. How are PVP players forcing others to pvp though? The safe vs. pvp boundary is clearly marked and, barring exploits like dragging ships out of the safe zone, avoiding pvp is trivial to do. If you don't want to pvp, you can easily choose not to.
At the end of the day, PVP players and non-PVP players have similar issues with the game right now. We want more content that involves the type of game we want to play.