I get that, but hate to speak for the devil here, an mmo is not a solo game. A small group of people can form an org and work together but will not be as organized as a big org. it's like that in every game, whether it's orgs, guilds, corps, ... a group of 4 friends does not do raids in any other MMORPG. a big guild does.
If you want to benefit from this gameplay and taste all parts of the game you should join a big org, and no, i don't mean you have to join one of the top 5... you can easily benefit from an org of 20 active people.
that said, i feel you, I'm not 20 anymore and I have irregular work hours, so these kinda games are typically not my cup of tea due to the fact that an org can't depend on me and I honestely cant be *rsed to go do something i don't feel like in the precious little time i have online, just because it's my time to do a mining run.
So I play and when I feel like i've seen enough of this game, i'll leave, and leave it to the active org members ... your situation may differ, but I honestly don't think you can expect from an MMO of this caliber to cater to solo players or groups of 2 or 3 friends.